Lucia: My friends use this as a big thing against me because when I’ve hooked up in cars, they’ve only been two cars, but they’ve both been luxury cars and they’re like, ‘Is that your thing?’ ‘Cause it’s been like, a Lexus or BMW, and this guy drove a BMW and he had a really nice car. I don’t even care about cars because I take public transport, but my friends are always like, ‘You have standards.’ So yeah, I was sitting there in his car, in my Calvin Kleins, and then he started kissing me and we hooked up. Then I remember that night because we’d talked before about — I joked before with him about — being rough and stuff like that and me taking joy in it. I think it’s because I really like playfulness and I like the idea that I can put someone in a position of power but still trust them to take care of me or listen to me if I need them to. And that it’s not serious either. That if they cause me pain it’s not serious because we’re just having a fun time. So there’s that safety net I guess. Yeah and then I remember when I got out of his car and I went back to my room and I looked in the mirror, I was like, ‘My lip’s bruised! And also, my butt’s still pink.’ Because he really hit me properly. I remember when I was sitting down I was like, ‘Damn this guy hits hard!’ But I was having such a fun time. I think I enjoyed it because I trusted him enough to do that with me. I also had fun because I was in a powerful position at one point, but I relinquished it to him at one point. I also took joy in it because I was like, ‘Well, I’m powerful because I’m desirable in this moment.’ Does that answer your question?




D: I think it very much answers my question. It’s also really interesting that you put playfulness and power in that relationship because I think that sometimes, some people think that power is very top-down. But in this story obviously there was a switch at some point and trust in there. It just all made sense as you were talking about it.

L: Okay, yeah that’s good.